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The Power Of Being

We All Have The Power Experience The Beauty Within

   Jul 23

THE POWER OF CHOICE

All that we need to be in control of our lives is to know that we have choices. We do not even have to exercise them so long as we own them.


Our lives are not determined by the situations that confront us, but by the choices that we make when confronted. If I am born into a poor family I can accept my lot and make the best of it, I can work hard to overcome it, or I can become a thief, or a drug dealer. We are not victims of the situations that life puts us in, we are victims of the choices that we make within those situations. It is vital to living a full life that we accept this fact.

I knew a woman who began with every advantage and ending up on welfare. I saw my daughter reacting to life in the same way and it worried me. I feared that if my daughter saw through the same lens she might end up same way. My daughter’s response to my fears was, “Don’t worry I won’t end up like her”. That statement had such an impact on me, because I knew that no one decides to destroy their lives. Our lives follow the paths determined by our choices and those choices are made one at a time. When we perceive that a choice we made was not right, we should then try to make a choice that is right for where we are now. Instead, most of us lose sight of where we wanted to be and instead focus our choices on making our initial choice right. Each choice is taking us in one direction or another. If we are not aware that we are making choices, we will not look around for options. The path that my friend was on was not the path that she thought that she had chosen it was the path that she took because she believed she had no other choice.

When we are in a place that is not where we had planned to be, we feel unhappy; either with ourselves or with the circumstances we hold responsible for putting us there. Usually we prefer to believe that it is anything other than our own choices that put us where we are. It is generally a partnership, life presented the choices and we made them. Acknowledging that we made the choices helps us to be more aware of the choices available to us in the future. It helps us to stand back when things seem bleak and see other options, and other ways. If we feel like victims, we react without assessing our possibilities, if there is a turn – we miss it because we are not looking. We continue on the path that has caused us suffering since our initial choice. What we can do is we can choose to dig ourselves out instead of choosing to dig ourselves in deeper.

My childhood was very difficult and I felt that I was a victim. I got involved in drugs, tried to kill myself, and I married for the wrong reasons. I married to escape the pain at home. As victims do, I sought escape from the suffering of my life, rather than a better life altogether. I exited through the only door that I could see simply because I was not aware that there could be others. I was not living in choice. I married the first man who asked. I felt very sorry for myself. Each choice that we make out of a feeling of helplessness places us in a situation that increases our helplessness. All of my limits, fears and pain simply changed form but remained consistent with my belief that I was a victim. I continued to make choices dictated by my perception of the situation rather than dictated by what I wanted, or who I was or where I wanted to be.

One day during therapy the therapist asked me why I chose to take drugs. I came from a town where taking drugs was the accepted means of dealing with our pain. However when I had to explain it as a choice, something changed. I never thought of anything that I had done as a choice; I just did what I believed I had to do. This covered anything, I had to react, I never thought that I could choose to act. Suddenly it dawned on me that I had made a choice and it was one of many choices that I could have made.

When we are children we do not have many obvious choices, we can fight, we can hide but we cannot change our situation. We actually have very little apparent power. Within that context I did not see myself as making choices I simply reacted.

I accept the choices that I made then; I accept my reaction to that environment because I did not see at the time that I had choices. I could never look back and blame myself for walking through a door that seemed to me to be the only one open. It was the door according to my belief system, but not the only one according to who I was and what I really wanted. Victims are always blind to where they are going because they live their lives running from instead of going to. They never plan a future – only an escape. Yet knowing even after the fact that I did have choices gave me the power that I needed to move on. I finally realized that each step along the way in my life I did make a choice for which I alone, not my parents, not my life, and not my situation, was responsible and one hundred percent accountable. I made the only choice that I could see, and that was fine, because a person who owns the power of choice owns his life. A person who makes choices, regardless of the outcome of those choices, is a person with a future to live, a life ahead of them rather than merely an expanding prison cell. I may have made choices that did not turn out as I planned, but those choices were mine. This freed me.

The fact that my life is made up of my choices has given me my wings. Nothing could stop me but I myself, and that was fine. I knew that in my life I may reach many dead ends, but if I built the road that reached them, I could build the road that would take me around them.

We suffer not because of what happens to us in our lives but because of the choices that we make in reaction to what happens. Each moment we live, we are making a choice, and that choice will determine the next experience. There is no choice is our last choice until we take our last breath.

We cannot assess our worth based upon one choice. Rather we must assess ourselves based upon our willingness to accept responsibility for each choice. If we do this, it will drive us to make each choice responsibly. Remember that so long as we have another breath we have another choice. Sometimes we are meant to make what we believe to be the wrong choice so that we can arrive at the right destination. When a situation is painful it is not working. If we cannot find a way to make it work there probably is no way. Here is where we have to make a choice. If we stay that is our choice and if we keep moving that too is our choice. The controlling factor is not the situation it is the choice that we make.

If I want my partner, but only if he or she fits into a certain image that I hold, I really want the image and not the person. I should look elsewhere or change the mold. If I need a job but I will only work under certain conditions, I cannot complain that I cannot get a job. I just have to choose what I want more and follow my choice. It does not matter what we do or do not do, we are making choices. What happens to us is and will always be a result of those choices not ever a result of the reason that we made those choices.

There is a person with one leg who chooses to play tennis and live a full life and joyful life. Then there is the person with one leg who chooses to sit in a room lonely and bitter feeling that life has given him nothing but pain. Both choices are understandable. The former is the choice of one whose choices are founded in a belief in challenges and not limits. The latter is the choice of one whose choices are founded in limits, a victim. Why should we sit and make ourselves miserable over those things that we cannot control? The time that we are wasting, and that pain that we are suffering is due to our choices, and not due to our situations. Difficult and painful things happen in our lives, but how we choose to deal with them will affect our entire lives. When we find ourselves facing an ocean of suffering we can choose to swim through it, facing only the far shore, or drown in it.

It used to anger me when every time I said that I could not do something because it was too hard, or even impossible to accomplish someone else did it. Someone would come along with less going for them than I thought that I had and do what I thought that I couldn’t. But I chose to let that help me grow. I could have said that that person was lucky, I chose to look at that as a sign that it could be done. When I took responsibility for my choices I had to examine their foundation. My choices were founded on my belief that my life held only a lose lose potential. Those who accomplished what I chose not to even attempt chose based on a belief that anything is possible.

I once would have decided that they must have been better or luckier than I. That way of thinking was once a choice that validated my self-pity. Instead I now choose to allow the accomplishments of others to empower me, and to make it more difficult for me to say, “I can’t”. We have to take responsibility for our choices, and embrace our ability to choose.

Some souls have chosen a more difficult road than others, yet however difficult or easy the road may be, we have all come here with everything that we need to reach our own destination. The pot of gold is behind one of the doors. All that we have to do is to find it. And we find it by choosing doors. Life is a treasure hunt, each experience gives us something, a direction, a tool, or a clue to the next door until we have it all.

The key is not to give up if it is not behind door number one. We have to keep in mind that the goal is just to find the treasure not to be right. First we find the treasure and then we know where it is, we do not have anyway of knowing where it is before we find it, so we should not expect that of ourselves. God knows where it is and He will lead us to it so long as we choose to seek it. Life does not force us ever to give up, that is a choice, sometimes it is the wise one, but in any event it still is a choice.

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Originally posted 2015-03-20 05:23:44. Republished by Blog Post Promoter


   Jul 21

The Second Principle – We must remain virtuous and morally strong in order to survive under a Republican Constitution

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On every question of construction [of the Constitution] let us carry ourselves back to the time when the Constitution was adopted, recollect the spirit manifested in the debates, and instead of trying what meaning may be squeezed out of the text, or intended against it, conform to the probable one in which it was passed.  Thomas Jefferson

The experiment that our founding fathers initiated in building this country was one of self-government.  They established this government based upon the belief in One God, the God of Nature.  Therefore, the Natural Laws that they built the government upon are the Laws of God.  This is the God, which endowed humankind with unalienable rights.  However, along with those rights, God gave man responsibilities, which cannot be separated from the rights.  They believed that in accepting each of these rights, man, accepts the responsibility to take it upon himself to ensure that all of his brothers enjoy each right equally.  In a sense our government as it was established, can only survive if we live by the question that John F. Kennedy asked, “Ask not, what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country. This is the essential quality necessary for the success of a Republic.  This is the essence of Republicanism as our Forefathers intended it when they created our Republic.

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“He therefore is the truest friend to the liberty of his country
who tries most to promote its virtue, and who, so far as his power
and influence extend, will not suffer a man to be chosen into any
office of power and trust who is not a wise and virtuous man…
The sum of all is, if we would most truly enjoy this gift of Heaven,
let us become a virtuous people.” Samuel Adams

Imagine a country where each community felt a moral responsibility to make sure that each member of that community had an opportunity to work, to support himself and his family.  Each individual felt a moral obligation to his neighbor, to see that the sick were cared for, all were fed and everyone had shelter.  They envisioned a country where each citizen felt a sense of moral duty to every other citizen.  Our Forefathers believed that this could be a country of citizens, raised from childhood as moral and virtuous.  They would be citizens taught the true meaning of being an American living under of the Laws of Nature and Nature’s God as mentioned in the Declaration of Independence.  They imagined that we would understand as citizens that, “To whom much is given, much is expected”, and that each citizen would be a government unto himself, (self-governing) guarding the rights and privileges of his brothers and sisters, as he would guard his own,   This is the only people deserving and capable of such a government as they were building.

2 Corinthians 8:13-15 13”For I do not mean that others should be eased and you burdened, but that as a matter of fairness 14your abundance at the present time should supply(A) their need, so that their abundance may supply your need, that there may be fairness. 15As it is written,(B) “Whoever gathered much had nothing left over, and whoever gathered little had no lack.”

I would supposed that our founding fathers believed that this was possible because the Americans of the time embraced a moral and virtuous life much like the lives lived today by the Amish people.   It is easy to imagine the American of our Forefathers vision surviving on the shoulders of the Amish.  It is also the type of heart centered life lived by the Hasidic Jews.  This virtue and sense of moral obligation was something that they did not feel was inborn, but had to be taught from a very young age through family, school and what they considered religion.  Both of these different groups, the Amish and the Hasidic Jews have different religions, but they both live and teach the Love of God and the responsibility that God give us to love one another.

I remember when my oldest daughter was very young she went to a Montessori School.  It seemed to me that all she did all day was cut vegetables and pour water.  Then when it was time for her to go to another school, the teachers at Montessori suggested that I take her to different schools and spend the day there with her.  We went to one of the schools that they had suggested and I watched as the children in the class fought over toys, pulled them out of the shelves and left them on the floor while they went for another.  Then I watched my daughter go to the toy shelf, take out a toy and play with it for a while.  Then, she would put the pieces all together and place it neatly back on the shelf where it came from – she was order in the midst of the most unnerving chaos.  I immediately took her hand and ran out of the classroom before she caught on to what they were doing and it rubbed off on her.   There were many reasons that Montessori taught my daughter and her classmates to be considerate, share, and put things back where they came from, but what was important was that the teaching became second nature to her.  This was the expectation of our founding fathers.  They believed that from a young age a child could be taught to act against selfishness through developing a habit of virtuous and moral actions.

Ben Franklin said, “Only a virtuous people are capable of freedom.  As nations become corrupt and vicious, they have more need of masters.”

“Self-love… is the sole antagonist of virtue, leading us constantly by our propensities to self-gratification in violation of our moral duties to others. Accordingly, it is against this enemy that are erected the batteries of moralists and religionists, as the only obstacle to the practice of morality. Take from man his selfish propensities, and he can have nothing to seduce him from the practice of virtue. Or subdue those propensities by education, instruction or restraint, and virtue remains without a competitor.” –Thomas Jefferson to Thomas Law, 1814. ME 14:140

What Thomas Jefferson spoke of as ‘self-love’, was what we today would call selfishness.  Once the British were expelled from this country the wealth and corruption that they had brought with them – left also.  The people easily connected the lack and suffering that they had endured under British rule to the corruption, wealth, and lack of virtue of the British Aristocracy and were anxious to separate themselves from anything resembled  it.  They  were, having earned their independence, satisfied with a life that was moral and virtuous, they had fought and achieved so much together that there existed a sense of brotherhood, even if temporary.  All read the writings of the founding fathers.  Virtue and morals were taught in the schools and centers of worship.  There was a sense of peace and wellbeing that impressed even the most skeptical European that a virtuous people, capable of freedom and self-government could exist.  Less government was as experiment in the ability of people to real meaning of self-government was the governing of self and the protection of others.  This required virtue and a spiritual moral code.

1 John 3:17 “But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?”

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I have felt, for the past ten years, that our Government was becoming more and more corrupt, more and more corroded, the structure was so eaten away by greed and corruption that there was just not enough of whatever was once there, to hold the building (Government) together any longer.  Greed had become like termites, laying eggs upon eggs within the structure until regardless of what we did to eliminate what we saw, the new eggs were constantly hatching and further eating away at what was left.  Eating away at the Constitution that once had such strong spirit.

“There are more instances of the abridgment of the freedom of the people by gradual and silent encroachments of those in power than by violent and sudden usurpations” ~James Madison

Is there no virtue among us? If there be not, we are in a wretched situation. No theoretical checks–no form of government can render us secure. To suppose that any form of government will secure liberty or happiness without any virtue in the people, is a chimerical idea. If there be sufficient virtue and intelligence in the community, it will be exercised in the selection of these men. So that we do not depend on their virtue, or put confidence in our rulers, but in the people who are to choose them.

” Is there no virtue among us? If there be not, we are in a wretched situation. No theoretical checks — no form of government can render us secure. To suppose liberty or happiness without any virtue in the people, is a chimerical idea. If there be sufficient virtue and intelligence in the community, it will be exercised in the selection of these men. So that we do not depend on their virtue, or put confidence in our rulers, but in the people who are to choose them.” ~ James Madison

The Constitution cannot hold up a government that is supporting a society that runs contrary to the spirit of its Framers, anymore than a carriage built to carry a baby can stand under the weight of an elephant.  Anything specifically designed for one type of user, can only be guaranteed if it only used by that type of user.  This Constitution was designed to support and serve a moral and virtuous people, and only such a people, as the majority, can anticipate that it will endure.

“I see in the near future a crisis approaching that unnerves me and causes me to tremble for the safety of my country; corporations have been enthroned, an era of corruption in High Places will follow, and the Money Power of the Country will endeavor to prolong its reign by working upon the prejudices of the People, until the wealth is aggregated in a few hands, and the Republic is destroyed. I feel at this moment more anxiety for the safety of my country than ever before, even in the midst of war”
Abraham Lincoln

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Originally posted 2015-05-11 05:27:07. Republished by Blog Post Promoter


   Jul 19

I AM GREAT

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Originally posted 2010-10-08 17:34:40. Republished by Blog Post Promoter